Human Design Academy By Ra Uru Hu: Part 10 - Open Centers In Relationships - The Source Of Pain And Transformation
Part 10: Open Centers in Relationships – The Source of Pain and Transformation Based on the original teachings of Ra Uru Hu – “Understanding Our Design in Relationships” (1998) “Your openness is where you are conditioned. In relationships, it is where you are most vulnerable — and most distorted. But it is also where you can become the most wise.”— Ra Uru Hu What Are Open Centers? In the BodyGraph, every center is either: Defined (colored in): consistent, reliable energy Undefined or Open (white): inconsistent, receptive energy When a center is open, it is not broken. But Ra made it clear: “It is open to conditioning. That means in relationship, it’s where you try to be what you’re not.” The Trap of Open Centers in Relationship We are deeply attracted to what we’re open to. But we’re also most distorted by it. Example: You have an open Emotional Solar Plexus. Your partner has it defined. Result: You will feel their emotions amplified. You may become afraid of emotional waves. You’ll avoid confrontation to keep the peace — not because you’re peaceful, but because you are avoiding discomfort. In this way, we try to please, fix, manage, or control our partners — not out of love, but out of conditioning. Ra called this: “The not-self love strategy. Trying to be what you think your partner wants, based on your openness.” "Don’t miss out — click ‘Get Link’ now to unlock the full post and exclusive video!"
Human Design Academy By Ra Uru Hu: Part 26 - The Role Of The Open Centers In Relationship - Where The Not-Self Meets The Other
<b>Part 26: The Role of the Open Centers in Relationship: Where the Not-Self Meets the Other</b> Open centers are not your weakness. They are your deepest intelligence, but only when you're no longer identified with them. In the relationship field, these open centers are like magnets. They draw in the other, reflect the other, amplify the other — and in that, they shape the way we experience intimacy. But for most people, what’s open becomes what’s distorted. What’s open becomes the place where the not-self lives. Let’s be very clear: the not-self is not the enemy. It is the passenger trying to drive the vehicle. It’s what happens when you live from your openness, instead of simply witnessing it. In relationship, most people are not meeting the other — they are desperately seeking to fill what’s open in themselves. That’s where distortion begins. Where Conditioning Happens Conditioning doesn’t come from culture. It doesn’t come from parenting, or schools. It comes from the people you’re most intimate with. Your open centers are like windows with no curtains. When someone with definition walks in, the energy pours through. And if you don’t know it’s not you, you will begin to need it. You will become addicted to what the other provides — not because it’s correct, but because it feels familiar. This is how dependency begins. Take the open Solar Plexus. The undefined emotional center is deeply sensitive to emotional waves — but not its own. It feels others’ feelings more intensely than the defined being does. And if you don’t recognize that, you start to avoid conflict, to people-please, to suppress your own truth so that you don’t rock the emotional boat. You call that love. But it’s fear. Or consider the open Heart. No willpower, no need to prove. But in the not-self? It will do anything to prove it’s worthy of love. It will take on debt, take on roles, take on pressure to be what the other needs — just to feel deserving. That is not a relationship. That’s survival. "Don’t miss out — click ‘Get Link’ now to unlock the full post and exclusive video!"